My Friend Al
I met Al while he was serving as an honoree (cancer patient or survivor) with the Leukemia Lymphoma Society's Team in Training. One of my first conversations with Al was over lunch after a swim & bike workout. Al told me about the pleasure he received serving as a Grand Juror. He relished the intellectual aspects of it coupled with giving back to society. He said it was his turn, and spoke about the importance of participation in a democracy. It was a very natural, gentle conversation, not lecturing in any way.
Al was diagnosed with acute myelogenous leukemia in January 2002. He immediately started chemotherapy and began searching for a bone marrow donor through the national registry, about five million people, without success. Once the search was expanded to international registries, a match was finally found in Israel. One out of an estimated eight million registered donors in the world. The man, Gavry (Gabriel), is a dairy farmer, who loves to swim and dance the salsa. Al's grandaughter was later named after Gavry.
Al generously gave of his time volunteering for the Leukemia Lymphoma Society and encouring people of all ages training for their first triathlons through Team In Training. The following is an excerpt he wrote as an introduction to everyone on my first triathlon team:
There are so many stories to tell and miracles to relate--the one most poignant to me begins when I wrote an email to just ten friends and relatives before starting the first chemo. "OK, here is the drill. Everyday, or as appropriate, from now until I'm out of the woods, find a quiet moment by yourself or even better with your loved one(s). Hold each other in a circle; close your eyes; feel the love rise and generate. Love for me, love for who you are, and particularly love for those so close to you. Now send that energy to me. No need to effort - just let the healing flow. You may save my life."
Thanks to the Internet, that message whirled around the world; it was stuffed into the Wailing Wall in Jerusalem, became part of sermons, and even reached into Tibet. I received loving and encouraging replies from people I've never met. I firmly believe that I have gotten this far and will go all the way because of the love that is out there for me and whether you know it or not, your participation in this triathlon is part of that. An act of loving and giving to individuals yet unknown - much like my dairy farmer freely and openly gave his stem cells to someone unknown.
Last May I participated in the Sprint Triathlon at Wildflower and followed that with the Olympic Triathlon at Pacific Grove. If any of you have any doubts about completing the challenge ahead of you, think about a 65-year-old guy with a history of Leukemia who managed to do it.
Last summer, Al's body began to reject his transplant, three years in. The first time I visted him in the hospital at Stanford University, it was his wedding anniversary. His wife, Carol was with him, and they were in great spirits. Al wanted to hear all about my training and how the team was doing. He ended up being able to go home and has had some tough times since then, but his death yesterday was very unexpected.
Al was a very loving husband, father, grandfather and a triathlete. He was one of the most positive people I've ever met and I miss him already.
I encourage everyone to register with the National Bone Marrow Registry. Bone Marrow transplants have come a long way. A cheek cell swab is all that's needed for registering. If a match is found, donations are often done solely by transfusion instead of an operation.
Al's friendship enriched my life. Please think of Al and his family as you go about your day.



